Therapy After an Affair
Relationships are Hard.
Including the one with ourselves. We live in a world that expects us to understand ourselves and understand our partners at the same time. This is an impossible task. We can only do our best. And often our best hurts ourselves and the ones we love.
If you have come to this page, it is likely because somewhere along the way of living your life, you became busy, overwhelmed, exhausted, burnt out, confused, abandoned, neglected…and you sought some sort of refuge in the arms or mind of another human being other than your partner.
Perhaps you continue to do it, perhaps it was a one-time thing.
Either way, here you are. Why are you here? I can share with you some common reasons my clients reach out to me when they find themselves dealing with this scenario. Perhaps some of this will sound familiar or curious. If so, I invite you to schedule a free 30-minute consultation below so we can discuss your individual reasons for looking for a therapist.
A lot of clients answer “I don’t know exactly why I had the affair.” One of the common goals of therapy is to help make sense of this confusion.
Many clients express a feeling of happiness and exhilaration from an affair. Even if they think it may be objectively wrong, they often feel something about it is actually right and important to them.
Some clients do not feel any remorse about what they are doing and question whether there is something wrong with them. They want to know if they can feel.
Often clients care very deeply about their partner who they are cheating on but they are wondering if the relationship can survive. Often they have needs from their partner that they are not getting. They may love their partner but have difficulty communicating with them.
Most clients have a life story of trial and tribulation of some sort. A difficult childhood. A lack of love and support growing up. Being around people who fought, drank, abused drugs, or were neglectful. I often tell my clients that it is hard to know what you want before you get the clouds out of the way. Working in therapy, we make goals for how to understand your past, see how it influenced you, and then release the pain and emotional charge that you still carry with you from those experiences. In my experience EMDR therapy helps my clients bring clarity into their lives so they can make more informed decisions about what they really want out of life, lovers, friends, family and careers.
EMDR Therapy For Affairs, Breakups, Intimacy & Relationship Issues
Process Past Relationships - Be Present With The One You Want Love
Improve Intimacy - Feel Safe In The Arms of The One You Want To Love
Increase Your Confidence - Make Your Voice Heard So Your Desires Can Be Met
Increase Awareness - Learn What Triggers You - Explore Intimacy Safely.
Reduce Anxiety - Allow Your Nervous System to Relax Naturally
Clarify The Pain - Learn to Recognize What is Your Issue VS. Your Partners
Sleep Easy - Free Yourself Of the Ruminating Thoughts at Night